Tips for talking with your ex during separation

"After my wife and I separated, we had a lot to figure out. When we tried talking, it usually ended up in a yelling match. It wasn’t good for us or for the kids. My counsellor gave me some tips to communicate better. It helped my ex and I turn things around, and we can now co-parent pretty well together. I’m glad for the kids’ sake."

– Danilo, Ladner, BC

Separation isn’t easy. For many, transitioning from being a couple to being single — or a single parent — is painful, frustrating, and scary. There are many things you and your ex need to talk through — some more difficult than others. Here’s how to have those difficult conversations.  

What you should know

Steps to having a difficult conversation

Who can help 

  • This information applies to British Columbia, Canada
  • Reviewed for legal accuracy in March 2022
  • Time to read: 9 minutes

Reviewed for legal accuracy by

Shelina Neallani, Neallani Law

Shelina Neallani

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